Nothing betrays the person as they are more beautifully than their physical mannerisms. Do they give the cup a few extra shakes after it’s empty? Do they do things with their hands when they are sitting? You see, by the time “yourself” makes it to your lips, it goes through so many filters. It has become safe and generic. It is the ego talking. The conciences likes to make things they way they should be and society gives us our “should”s. The only genuine differences between people are the slightly different learning strategies, the way their non-verbal thoughts are formed, the way the world is experienced in their brain.